Fear Based Decision Making

Peace and Blessings to you,

There are numerous situations that can present themselves as crisis in our life. When the threat of crisis arrives, we have a tendency to start over-thinking, over-evaluating, playing the “what if” game and soliciting a lot of detrimental advice.

3 ways to recognize if fear is driving your decision:

  1. If your decision is based on fear of the unknown.
  2. If your decision is based on fear of judgment.
  3. If your decision is based on lack of resources.

All of those situations can be scary and difficult to navigate if you can’t find a way to get out of your own head and make a plan for clear, objective decision-making.

October 2015 was a really tough time for me. I was faced with the reality that my nice paying, great benefit having job was being eliminated. It couldn’t have come at a worse time because I was going through cancer treatments, I was exhausted from radiation and I could not think clearly. I had the options of either taking a separation package or applying for a new job in another part of the organization. I was too exhausted to put a resume together or even apply for another position. I made the choice to leave the company.  I figured this was God’s way of telling me that things needed to change in my life and that he had other plans for me. Several months into my choice, things went bad. I realized that I didn’t have a solid plan for how I would sustain my lifestyle and incorporate this new lifestyle of being a cancer survivor.

Because I made a huge choice during a time of crisis and failed to have a sustainable plan of survival; lack, doubt, self-criticism and fear-based thinking and decision-making crept in.

I’ll update you at a later time on how things have progressed in my life since then. That’s a whole different topic, but for now I want you to use the follow nugget when making major life decisions.

Own Your Choice.

You have to completely and unapologetically own your decisions. If that means asking for help, ask. If that means hiring help..hire some help! Do whatever you have to do to make a well-informed plan. You have one life to live and it’s not being lived in reverse. If things go south, course correct, think differently and make a different choice.

I love you for real.

Melissa